I thought I knew everything about having babies, all the gruesome details of recovery and all the pee and poop you will encounter.
My baby is four weeks old today and I can tell you I knew nothing about having a baby. Of course, everything that I was told and read is true. You just don't realize how very true it is.
I heard time and time again, be flexible. Your birth plan is nice to have but things never go like you plan. That couldn't be more true. There isn't a thing on my plan that happened like I would have liked. It took me three weeks to get over that fact and realize it was out of my control.
When they say it hurts to go to the bathroom afterwards, they weren't lying. Granted that partly depends on your experience during childbirth, but seriously, it sucks. The good thing is it doesn't last forever, even though it seems like it might.
You might say you never want to do that again, and you might think you mean it. You probably will change your mind. :)
When they say you will never sleep again, and you will learn to function on no sleep... its true! I just didn't realize there was a period of having to adjust. Those first couple weeks are very hard. My husband took the blunt of my tired outbursts. It does get better though, you do what you must and you learn to adjust.
You will do anything to protect your baby. You will think everything is probably wrong. You will know you are not going to be good enough for your baby. I think you just have to learn to do what you can, and hope for the best!
Even though your husband is doing everything they can to help you, they will probably do it wrong. They will probably do everything wrong. You just have to let them do what they do. If it works for them, then it works. If it doesn't then you just have to let them learn. As a side note, I don't know how I would have done any of this without my husband. He has been my biggest supporter, and seeing how he is with our son is one of the most beautiful things I have seen. Now, if he throws his shoe on the floor one more time while I am trying to put our sleep fighter to sleep - then I will throw a shoe at him! HA! :0
All of the hard things that occur after having your first are harder than I expected. All of the wonderful things about having a baby are better too.
The way my son gazes in my eyes while he is eating, makes my heart want to burst.
I will never think there is a baby that is more beautiful. Sorry! Even though sometimes my son sometimes resembles an old man, or his little baby acne starts to show up. I honestly think he is the most beautiful baby I have ever seen. That won't change.
The noises he makes literally make me so happy. I didn't know baby noises could be so sweet or cute.
There is absolutely nothing better in the world than having your little guy fall asleep on you, or anywhere. Sleeping babies are the sweetest thing in the entire world. You might have the urge to squeeze them or shower them with kisses. I suggest you just let them sleep for now:)
So, all in all, when you hear having children is the hardest but most rewarding thing you will ever do, I agree. I'm such a new mom and I know I will learn so much along the way. I know so little right now. All the things I think I know right now will change. I remember everyone saying we will get peed on. Our first night home my son pooped and peed all over both my husband and I and our wall and blanket. They were right. I just didn't know to what extent. That is what I learned everything is more intense than I realized. That makes me both excited and nervous for the future. I will never regret having my beautiful baby. Maybe just voicing my opinions about what is right and wrong before I even had a baby. You really can't judge unless you have been there and done that. All the things I said I would never do, I just might. I guess it just depends on the circumstances. When you read about what its like, nothing will actually prepare you for it all. You just have to take the plunge and just laugh at all the poop you will encounter.
